We are offered unlimited life paths, with so many forks in our roads. Bountiful chances to stray, play, grow and show just who we are. These choices define exactly who we are. If we truly accept that we do indeed have all these choices, and believe that we can follow any path we like, we are free in spirit. When we search our heart and soul to discover who we really are, we can make conscious choices to follow our values.
I had to start with empowerment. Conscious or not, EVERYTHING we do is a choice. How powerful! So I am responsible for who I am. No one else did it. They did do everything they did. I chose, often passively, reactively, irrationally, emotionally, defensively, selfishly and/or irresponsibly, how to respond or act. These are lessons, whether I learned them or not. They tend to repeat themselves.
So the troubles I’ve faced resulted from choices I’ve made. Likewise for the sobriety, growth, peacefulness, acceptance, joy and gratitude. I know in my heart that when I make the best choices I can, with as much faith, honesty and humility as I can muster, life will go better than if I reverted to making choices based on greed, pride, lust and fear. The details make the story fun. Every step we take is on the biggest stage of all. It’s almost always “take one.” There are few Mulligans, do-overs or re-takes. It seems like a good idea to be on our best behavior!

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January 5, 2013 at 11:12 am
Susan Wingate
I would love to remain on my best behavior. What a difficult but doable task. A great one to strive for.
Thanks for this post.
January 5, 2013 at 11:38 am
frankoshanko
Me too. Experts say goals should be achievable, so we don’t give up on them. Yet I don’t want to set artificial limits on how much I can grow. So lately I’ve been striving for betterment and tolerance of everyone, including myself. I can’t imagine that giving up will ever be a good choice!
January 5, 2013 at 1:33 pm
char
We do always have choice (although some bad actions can lead to less choice in the future). It would be a better world if more people took responsibility for their choices instead of trying to justify themselves or blame others for bad things that happen to them. Good post.
January 5, 2013 at 11:22 pm
frankoshanko
Thanks! I believe you are right!
January 7, 2013 at 8:43 am
Carrie Rubin
It really does come down to choice. Some of those choices are easy; some are difficult. But one thing I’ve finally learned to do is to listen not only to my brain when deciding which path to take, but also my gut. Both have something valuable to say.
January 7, 2013 at 10:06 pm
frankoshanko
I believe you are right. I made some poor choices listening to my heart only, so I’ve been trying to balance more rationality into my decisions. I guess we can err on both sides!